Just like a trash can, people come and dump all their dirty diapers and disgusting leftovers and let’s not mention the unmentionables! There is green mold and fuzzy balls growing on the bottom of the trash can. The liquid that oozes out of the holes that are on the bottom of the over used can is either green, brown and if it’s really bad, black! If it is a house trash can, it begins to stink and it leaves a God-awful smell throughout the entire house. Sometimes, people can smell all of your trash before they step both feet inside. Then, that person no longer wants to be inside the house because the smell has overwhelmed their nostrils. Now, that is just your trash. But imagine for a second that that same person who came and complained about your trash and was nearly about to pass out, saw the lid to the can open and threw their trash inside of yours adding to the stench.
That is how it is when we allow people to throw their unnecessary drama, problems and issues in us. If someone deposits their negativity in you, whose fault is it truly? Is it theirs? Is it yours? The operative word here is ALLOW. We are passed the time and day where we allow others negative behavior to be deposited in us; especially when we have our own trash to discard.
Notice how easy it was for this person to come in someone else’s privacy and space and complain about their trash and yet have the audacity to deposit theirs in ours. I am sure if you ask the person that committed this action why they did such a thing, the first thing would probably be “The lid was open! It was easy access”.
Protect your intimate issues and problems yet work on cleaning them out. Sometimes we get accustomed to our stench that we don’t even know it until someone points it out to us. However, that is no reason for them to throw their mess in you. It grows bacteria-thus the smell=disappointments, let downs, heartache and confusion. When in the process of building your life, don’t allow others to put their mess in you. Make them take ownership and hold them accountable. Just make sure you are doing the same!
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